Steve:
«Hello Sveta
How are you?
I am preparing to travel to China zaftra. I am getting excited because I have never visited China before.
I'm told it is really cold in Ufa now. It has been snowing here last week, but now it is a bit warmer (+6) but it will rain heavily zaftra.»>
Me:
rain??? Oh no! We're not gonna see rain for at least 2 weeks
> Oh yeah i remember you mentioned that you were going to China. I'm very glad to hear that))
> That's really nice.
> Me? I'm ok. Thinking of giving up my university
Steve:
Hi Sveta
>
> Why would you give up at University - you don't have long to go?
Me:
i know but you see I want to go to NY as soon as possible and because of my studies i can go only 1 July
-- I understand your desire to return to NY, but you have the rest of your life in front of you - you should definitely be patient and complete your University course. Trust me, it will be worth it in the long term.
I sound like an old man!
Me:
I think you are right and I'm very thankful to you for this advice.
Maybe after you said that I'm plucky I have a strong desire to do something brave but in fact it turns out to be something stupid
-- I would never say you were stupid, but often when you want something too much it can cloud your judgement. It is better to seek opinions from people who don't have a vested interest. I can give you impartial advice. I am also practiced in seeing a bigger picture, so ask me any questions any time and I will try to help.
-- i would really like to ask you one question about my life but i don't know if i should take more of your time
-- Ask away - you have my ear!
-- i would also want to know if you think we are friends as my question is really personal
-- We got on well on the two days we worked together and have been in touch since, so in this context, I would say we are friends. I can give you my assurance that anything you say I will treat in confidence. If I feel I can't answer, then I will say so. Is that good enough?
-- perfect!
Ok so the thing is I'm in love with somebody who is really older than me
-- So what advice do you want?
-- i don't even know... Your opinion.. What do you think about it. Maybe it's just crazy. But I really don't want you to think of it as of a crush on a teacher. Becuase it's not like that
difficult to reply anything?
-- Sorry, I was away from my computer. Does he know your feelings? How does he feel about you?
-- he knows. He says that he loves me but he is worried about the stupid age difference. Now you understand why I was sad when you told me I look young
-- I understand. I have two thoughts. Firstly, he may think you will quickly become tired of him, and it is a worry for the future - and how would you feel when you are 35-40 and he is an old man. Secondly, I do think you are young for your age (young thinking) - not a criticism, an observation, and this may be an issue.
-- well I was thinking about all these... I came to a conclution that i want to enjoy what i have now... I don't know what is going to happen in future. Now I feel good with him and I just don't want to put an end to our relationship because of the age. It's too difficult for me
-- So how does this work in relation to NY - does he live there?
That explains everything! You should use your time in Ufa to finish your education and to test your relationship. True love will wait.
Take care
Steve